complicated life

30 October, 2006

Is love an obligation?
ofcourse i love you but care?
i do care but is what i have to offer enough?
with so many people demanding the same from you
can u afford to split?
Do u first of all wanto share it with them?
feeling pity? or just cant say no?
is it their fault or yours?
there is a blame game and the other person is in a maze with no exits!

I want to give it someone who longs for someone else...
who may not even exist?
is that fair to the person who wants it from me?
is that fair to myself to give it him?
what is it i am thinking?
being selfless to one and selfish to another...
that i might change one day?
hoping for what? a miracle? (listen to the wisemen!)
what if i dont?
go with assumptions?
without any backup?
do we need backup? presumtuous lot!

love cant be an obligation! but can it work anyway? (no gender issues here) will u be able to compromise? i cant... i wont!!! will u?

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Me Thinks.. said...

I have, I will.. if i really am in love..

Anu said...

how will u know what is love??? thats the question i ask! the guy u love doesnt reciprocate and the guy who does is not whom u love!!!

Anu said...

so will u compromise with ureself that u cannot be with the guy u want and also not give another guy a chance who really loves u???either ways its compromise without hope!!! i dunno ... its my head!!!tryin to figure things by talking out loud!!!

Sh'shank said...

Name one thing in life which is possible without comprromise??
Even if you are going to isolate yourself you are compromising with so much...
Compromise is how things survive...
Your view on compromise is onr dimension and incomplete...

Anu said...

when u wanto compromise then it becomes a choice u make.. what if it doesnt?what if its thrusted on u!?yeah u compromise and live with wats given? i dont think i can and ever have. and i figure thats the reason of my unhappiness. couldnt write it in so many words!

Anonymous said...

what we are discussin here is an extremely surperficial and pretentious concept called LOWE as many wud like to call it.

when i say "i lowe you" it doesn really cover a lot of aspects of your life. it doesn tell the person that i am very peculiar about using the toilet first or say my reservation abt visitors on sundays. once these seemingly petty mulishness come to the fore in somebody's life they create conflict.. a deviation from the initial concept they had about LOWE and what they actually have in hand.

thats when the question of compromise comes.. those who dun ve a problem with compromising (now this is also debatable cos no one actually wants to compromise though they pretend otherwise)carry on with the relationship and others break up...

those who are never ready to compromise no matter what, dun utter that four letter word LOWE.

Anu said...

@lash: na i think u mite have got this wrong! i cannot compromise on the love i feel for someone but sometimes forced to accept the fact that they dont love u like u do.. well i aint happy with that! compromise? i think ppl in love understand the importance of what ure asking the other person to compromise on and dont!!!

Me Thinks.. said...

hmmm there are two things here, compromise and acceptance, if u have accepted that the guy doesnt love u in return then its not compromise.
Compromising is essential for survival.

Anu said...

@MT: thats y i said i am not happy with myself cuz that i cannot accept it! well if ther is something called im dying inside??? thats jus too metaphorical for me!!!

Anonymous said...

Sigh... Women. Can't live with them. Can't live without them.

Anonymous said...

i wont compromise. i' rather live on my own. the whole love the one who loves u, n not the one u love blah, doenst work!if i cant find love, rather be with myself, that in an illusion that i will find love in someone who say/thinks/is in love with me.is that a compromise, hell ya.but its a compromise, i make on mu own.
and do miracles happen?i still feel they do

Anu said...

u hit the nail sneha!!! this is EXACTLY what i was tryin to say! the choice we make,the compromise we make sometimes is thrusted upon us(by lack of guys or jus circumstances) and thats wen i can feel my patience with life starts slipping away!

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